Shane here... I 'borrowed' Huskee's blog to do an update. I went back to the hospital for a scheduled check-up on on Thursday moring because when I lost Chloe, the doctors took A LOT (something like 8-10 test tubes) of my blood to run some checks on the likely cause that could've caused the water bag to break prematurely for the second time. The medical term for this is known as Preterm Premature Rupture of Membranes (PPROM). I think I am becoming a expert on this because I have been reading up SO much about this in the past 2 weeks.
The night before the check-up was really hard... I was torn betwen hoping to found out the root cause of what went wrong, i.e. that there is something with me/ my body that caused the recurrent miscarriages OR to hope that they cannot find out anything wrong with me/ my body and everything is 'normal'. Either way, it won't bring Lucas or Chloe back... either way, I'm going to be absolutely terrified if I ever do get pregnant again.
The doctor that I was supposed to see is the same one who delivered Chloe. He was really empathetic and patient because he took the time to go through all the test results and answered all the questions we had. When he delievered Chloe, he actually made the effort to ask us if we had a name for her, and when we told him her name, he addressed Chloe by that instead of using a generic term fetus, baby, etc. This little gesture touched me a lot because it made Chloe 'real' and I felt that it gave her some respect that a doctor recognised her as a 'being' rather than a fetus. Somehow I get pretty upset when the documents referred to her as 'fetus'.. and the 'cause of death' stated is 'abortion'. I DID NOT abort my baby!!!!!!!!
In a nutshell, most of my tests results did not indicate anything unusal which could have caused the PPROM... no diabetes, no bacteria, no Parvo virus, no abnormal antibody in my blood... However the docor recommended for me to go back in another 6 weeks time to redo the tests again (that means another 8-10 test tubes of blood) as my hormones are still affected by the pregnancy and the results may not be 100% accurate. The 2 key tests that the doctor wants to really look at would be the Thyroid test and the one for Thrombophilia, both of which could be a cause for recurrent miscarriages. Well at least he is taking our case seriously and trying to investigate deeper. From what I have read/ heard/ been told, most doctors do not take miscarriages seriously enough to run detailed checks until a woman had 3 successive miscarriages.
Apprarently it'd take 6-8 weeks for the pregnancy hormones to clear. The doctor kept telling us how sorry he was about the sudden and unexpected loss of Chloe and seemed genuinely concerned. It kinda touched me that a 'stranger' whom I've only met once before showed empathy and concern, and at the same time was able to be honest and factual when answering our questions.
The results (or lack of) was more frustrating/ upsetting than I had initially expected. I just want to know WHY I lost my 2 babies and guess I'd have to wait longer to find out... or maybe it is something that I won't ever find out ever.