Monday, August 4, 2008

Today is mama's birthday but unlike all the previous years where she used to celebrate this day with much fanfare, i.e. countless dinners with friends and the traditional barbeque with the whole family (Mom's birthday and her sister aka The Maid's birthday is just 4 days apart so they always have some sort of a joint-celebration since they were young). However, this year is going to be 'quiet' cos she does not want to 'celebrate'. This is because other than being mom's birthday, today also marks another occasion. It is the 49th day since mama and papa lost Lucas.

My parents are not exactly 'Buddhist' per se, but they both have grown up in Buddist environments/ families, so they are more 'inclined' that way. Anyway according to the Buddists, 'for 49 days after death the individual wanders between the land of the dead and that of the living; after this period the mechanism of karma decides in which body it will be reincarnated.' So if you believe in this belief, then today will be the day when Lucas will 'leave' us and move on to the next chapter of his life/ afterlife (??). You may ask why is mama sad since it's a good thing that Lucas is moving on to a better place, well, she is very sad cos the thought of not knowing if they'll ever be reunited again pains her so much.

The one thing that brought some relief was that Jay's mom told mama that today is symbolic because after today, both mama and Lucas will have a new begining. And hopefully, it'd give Lucas the much needed chance to reincarnate and 'come back' as their next baby... well, just hopefully... Anyway, mama is clinging on to this thought and she is trying to focus on it so that she can get through the rest of the day in one piece.

Huskee's mom: Sometimes, simply trying to look strong and act strong can be so, so, so tiring...


♥PugPosse♥ said...

HaPpY Birthday!!

Keep your chin up...and keep strong.... (( Hugs))

Lacy said...

w00f's Huskee Boy, my mama wants to talk to ur mama...have a happy august 4th...hope that takes care of the birthday...have u ever heard or read any of silvia brownes books? i will hunt the name of the one for u to read if u mite help u...

b safe,

duo_disaster said...

Nothing but a Blessed Birthday
Aunty Shane!

We would like to share our toys & treats with you but M says NO WAY!

Nonetheless, thou' we aren't Buddisht still we will all pray for you and Lucas for a new beginning -- that he will still be recarnated as you and Uncle Mark's baby soon.

We dunno if this is alright. But after we read about the 49 days we hope you will meet Lucas today.

Rudolf + Goofy

Moco said...

Grammie says that she had a friend that lost a boy baby and his name was Tommy. The next time she got pregnant it was a boy and she gave birth and called him Tommy. We think it is right that Lucas will be coming as the next baby.

Maggie and Mitch said...

Happy birthday to your mom, Huskee! We're praying that we hear great news from your mom soon!

Love ya lots,
Maggie and Mitch

Boo said...

happy birthday huskee mama!

wet wet licks


BWTH Dog House said...

Happy birthday to your mom even though she doesnt feel like celebrating it. Please send some licks to cheer ur mom.

slurpy licks,

Pedro said...

My mom and I hope your mom has a happy, peaceful birthday and that she enjoys the company of her sister. Wishing her a good year ahead!


Deefor said...

That sounds like a good thing in a sad way. Birthdays are new beginnings too so I hope this is the beginning of a good future.


Ms. _______ 2 be ! said...

Happy Birthday to your mom.
I wish the best for your family with tons of hugs and kisses!

Joe Stains said...

We are thinking about you today and sending good thoughts your way, even just to give you strength.

Scottie the 'cutie' said...

Happy Birthday to your Mom,Huskee. Even though she doesn't want to celebrate, we'd still like to wish her one...=) We also hope that Lucas will reincarnate as the next baby too...keeping my paws crossed for you and your family!


Lorenza said...

Hi, Huskee!
Happy Birthday to your Mom! I know she did not want to celebrate it but accoding to the Buddisht belief this could be a new beggining for Baby Lucas and for her too.
Kisses and hugs

Two Schnauzers from New England said...

Hi, Huskee Boy -

Even though your Mom did not want to "celebrate" her birthday, we hope that she enjoyed her time with her sister.

Mama knows what it is like to not want to celebrate birthdays. Her grandpa was killed the day after her birthday and for a long time she did not want to celebrate because of the pain it caused her grandma. Birthdays are a bittersweet time for Mama.

Love -

Hershey and Kaci

Kirby said...

Happy Birthday to your Mom Huskee! Give her lick after lick after lick to make sue she knows you are wishing her a happy birthday! I think it would be marvelous if Lucas came back as their next baby. Nothing would be more fitting. Here's to many happy days ahead!

Your pal,

Comet and BLU said...

Even though your mom is still sad about Lucas, we hope she is able to find some peace and happiness on her birthday. We know that a great life is in store for both your mom and Lucas.

Ike said...

Happy birthday! A wise dog once told me "when one door closes, another one opens."

Jackson said...

Shane, I hope you had a peaceful birthday. Please know that we're still thinking of you. J1 & J xx

Simba said...

So many blogs to catch up on. Hope everyone is fit and well.

Simba x

BrandytheGreat said...

WEll, Happy BUrfdayy!
Hope you will continue to stay strong, and smile!
MAke sure she does, huskee!

Deetz said...

Yes Husky it can be very tiring. I really like that Buddhist thought. What a wonderful post, even though it is filled with sadness for the loss of Lucas, but joy for a new beginning.....
Ps. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers for Charlotte.

Asta said...

Huskee Boy
Help youw Mom thwough this difficult time and give hew lots of Birfday kisses fow me..I know you will..Mommi says youw Mom will nevew loose Lucas, no mattew whewe his next life takes him..he will always be pawt of youw family.
smoochie kisses

JB's Big World said...

I hope your mom had a nice birthday. Stay strong and, Huskee, as always, take care of your mom!

Hammer said...

Dear Shane
You should have told me it was your birthday. Sorry I did not know and I hope you had as good a birthday as possible.
As for our particular religion and our beliefs, until a couple of weeks ago, I lost all my faith when Khomet died. I feel now that I can chose whether I want to believe that 'shit happens and then you die' or else that love is eternal and we are never truly parted from those we love. To help me with my grief for Khomet and also Beau and my other beloved family members, I chose to believe that they are always with me, and when I die I will be with all my loved ones again. This does not make it any easier to continue living without them though.
I understand what you say about the energy of portraying yourself as so-called 'normal'i.e. being 'strong' in front of others. I can do this now but when I get home I say to myself: "I am NOT okay and Khomet's death is NOT okay and Beau's stealing is NOT okay" and I cry and cry. Then I look at Hammer, Hobson, Rose and Charlamayne and I know they love and need me too, so I keep going. But until I get through my grief, inside, deep in my heart, I am NOT okay.
I hope Biyin's birthday gift arrives in time, and I hope she likes it.
Happy belated Birthday to you and Happy Birthday to Biyin on 7 August 2008.
Lots of Love from Susan and her kids

Verdi y Gaucho tibetano en Madrid said...

happy birthday.. Huskee's mom...
send you a big hug


Hope your Mom had a calming birthday with her sister.What a beautiful belief & the Mommy thinks that Lucas will be back soon but for now give your Mommy lots of love, kisses and (((huggies))) from me.

Stay strong....Mona

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Maggie said...

Hai Huskee Mama...
Happy birthdayyyyyyy:)
be strong and courageous..
have a blast with your loved onessss. okayyy
maggie kiss2 and licks2 you :)


Lady Kaos said...

Happy Birthday to Your Mom!!! Give her giant hugs and kisses from me!!!
We don't know much about Buddism and the reincarnation, but I don't think your Mom needs to worry about being reunited with Lucas. I think she has shown how much she loves him and cares so much for him. I am POSITIVE your Mom and Dad will be definately be reunited with Lucas.

Deefor said...

Come visit me. I gave you an award.

Take care